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Why Every Teacher Needs a Smile File


"My mom sent this," said one of my fifth graders as he handed me an envelope.

"For me or the intern?" I asked, unsure if this was for me or my student teacher from the local university.

"For you." With that he walked back to his seat to begin the day. I took the envelope and a few other materials and left the room while my intern conducted her full time teaching. After getting settled in the work room, I opened the envelope and began to read.

The note was from the student's mother, written on notebook paper in pencil. "I heard you were a good teacher, but I don't see it," it said. My heart pounded, my stomach turned and my hands shook. I walked straight into my administrator's office and cried. Bawled. Shoulder-shaking sobs as I handed him the letter.

He did two things that day that helped me. He let me cry and, more importantly, he kept the letter.

This happened over ten years ago and I can still visualize that letter in my mind. Just writing about it feels like I am teleported back to the very moment I read those poisonous words.  I remember what the paper felt like and the loops of her cursive handwriting. It's burned into my memory like a cattle brand.

If I still had the letter, I would have memorized it and all the flaws she pointed out. It would haunt me sitting in a drawer. That's why I'm so grateful my supervisor took the letter away because all I can remember is that one line. And that one line is enough to get my pulse racing so that I can hear my heartbeat in my ears a decade after it happened.

Holding on to those negative memories is actually common, perhaps even human nature. I know I've had parents send me lovely notes and messages in my career, but this stinker of a comment is the one I can quote. And I will likely remember it for a lot longer than those nice messages because research indicates that the memories of the bad news tends to linger.

So the question becomes, how do you combat the inevitable negativity?  For me the answer is a smile file.

My Smile File is called HAPPY!
Now, you don't really have to call it a smile file and it doesn't even have to be a real file.  As a classroom teacher, I had an actual file folder where I would drop printouts of nice messages, letters from parents, student drawings, notes from colleagues, etc. Now,  I keep mine on email, since I don't get nearly as many handwritten and hand-drawn notes. I call it HAPPY. Every so often I get a nice message that makes me feel good, so I plop it in the HAPPY folder.

How does a smile file combat the Negative Nelly comments? Well, it turns out that researchers have looked into the impact of praise versus criticism in various settings--business and marriage are two commonly referenced settings. Most of the research suggests that there is a sweet spot of positive and negative reviews, which is 5:1. That means it takes about five positive events to overcome just one negative one.  I think my parent note required 25:1!

Having that smile file handy means that when the big negative hits and you're feeling low, you have instant, unsolicited happy at your fingertips. In fact, I often determine what I need to put in my own HAPPY file based on how specific the praise is. For my situation, parent notes about how much I had helped their child or observation notes from other teachers would have helped me attack the "terrible teacher" story that I was telling myself.

Brené Brown, researcher and author calls the "terrible teacher" story your SFD, or shoddy first draft, based on the work of Anne Lamott. (Truth be told,  "shoddy" is a less colorful phrase for what Anne actually means by SFD!) In Brown's interpretation, she used SFD to describe the story we tell ourselves based on the evidence provided, even if our interpretation has big holes. What gets you to start revising that first draft of the story you tell yourself can be some evidence to the contrary. If the 5:1 is accurate, a healthy smile file might be what moves you into revising that SFD.

We are often willing to share negative, embarrassing or awful stories about ourselves, but use this as your chance to brag on how great you really are. And then print it for your smile file...you might need it someday. You might also want to find a colleague who needs a little something for her smile file, so send a note with some specifics about what you appreciate about them.

In the spirit of 5:1, share the good stuff in the comments or tweet it out. Remember to tag your friends and colleagues! We'll call it our #SmileFileRevolution!

40 by 40



This week is my 39th birthday and, like most people approaching a milestone birthday, I've started making a list of what I'd like to accomplish before the big 4-0. First on my to-do list: Read 40 books by my 40th birthday.

Is It Possible?

When I told my husband that, he said, "Altogether? Like in a year?" It's ambitious for me and, apparently, for most Americans. A recent survey reported 12 books to be the average, but about a fourth of American adults hadn't even read one book in the last 12 months. Yikes! I've never officially counted how many books I've read in one year before, but I do try to keep track here

In my family, I am known as a reader, the bookworm. As much as I love reading, I can't say that I am always reading something. My tendency is to read in binges, often reading a whole series in succession--the year of Harry Potter and Hunger Games weekend come to mind. 

Parenthood has dramatically changed my reading habits in recent times. Since my daughter was born, I've noticed I'm a more prolific reader when I'm forced to sit and be still with all other entertainment options removed. I read bunches while nursing my child and during that phase where I had to sit in her room until she fell asleep every night. eReaders are a lifesaver in those situations. But now sustained attention to any task with a three-year-old around is a challenge.  Vacations filled with books on the beach are distant memories, too. 

Knowing that I'm unlikely to invent more time to read, I realized that there would have to some behavior changes on my part if I'm really going to digest roughly one book a week until next December. Austin Kleon's recent newsletter mentioned year-end lists and linked to his post on how he read over 70 books in 2014.  I was inspired! Based on his seven tips and a few of my own ground rules, I've come up with a plan. Here goes...

Read a Book Instead A. Kleon
© Austin Kleon

How I'm Doing 40 by 40 in 10 Easy Steps

 1. Runs from December 2015 to December 2016.
 2. Books can be counted as long as they are finished by my birthday 2016 regardless of start date.
 3. Professional books (nonfiction) and personal books (fiction and nonfiction) count.
 4. Children's books do not count, unless they are chapter length.
 5. Format is irrelevant - eBooks, audiobooks, traditionally bound are all fair game.
 6. Books before Facebook. Limit social media and read a book instead.
 7. Go to bed earlier and read. See also #6.
 8. Travel with books. Always.  See also #6.
 9. Talk about books and ideas more and less about people. See also #6.
10. Remember this is not a chore. You actually like reading. A lot. It's like being forced to eat ice cream and wear soft pants every day. Enjoy it, dadgummit! 

Ready, Set, Go! 

I've already picked out a few books to get started with and set my iPhone lock screen to Austin Kleon's "Read a Book Instead". I imagine I'll hit a wall somewhere along the way, so give me some encouragement and maybe a book recommendation or two along the way.  What book would get you out of a reading slump? Tell me on Twitter with #40_by_40:

Tweet: Hey Amber, read this: INSERT TITLE HERE #40_by_40



I'll keep you posted on the progress. Happy reading!

Spring's Rejuvenation


I started a meeting with a group of teachers by telling them about my day spent observing induction teachers. They all chuckled and had the "bless our heart" face at the thought of beginning teachers handling their classrooms in the few days before Spring Break. I'm sure the laughter was well-intended, remembering their own early years of teaching, and the chaos that is often recalled from those days.

I told this group of veterans that what I saw was actually quite an inspiration to me. In fact, one of the things I love most about my job is working with new teachers to the profession. In most cases, beginning teachers come into the profession ready to take on the world, be amazing at everything, and rock the classroom. Folks tend to either resent this unbridled enthusiasm with rolled eyes and "you'll learn" comments or they feed off it by recharging their own batteries.  Knowing that I love working with new teachers, it's not hard to guess where I fit. 

One of my favorite children's books, Verdi by Janell Cannon, tells the story of that reminds me of what beginning teachers go through during the early years in their careers. The green grumblers, the old snakes in the book, tell young and vibrant Verdi that he may be wild and crazy now, but it won't stay like that. Someday, they say,  he'll learn his lesson and be as curmudgeonly as them.  Verdi desperately tries to avoid becoming a green grumbler until he ultimately finds himself broken and as grumpy as he once feared. That is, until he meets the next generation of young, rambunctious snakes, that help him find his joy once again. 

©New Teacher Center
There are grumblers in every building that can infect new teachers with negative attitudes. Jennifer Gonzalez at Cult of Pedagogy calls them walnut trees.  In looking at data regarding new teachers' attitudes, it's easy to see how the disillusionment phase makes a beginning teacher susceptible to grumblers.  New teachers tell me they thought about quitting over Christmas or starting job searching to do something--anything-- else.

But things typically turn around after winter break. Maybe it's the combination of extra sleep, a change of scenery and festivities that gets them back, but they return a little more optimistic then they left. 

As Spring Break approaches, I can see the change in the weather and the climb back up toward anticipation.

"I can do this," one induction teacher told me recently, which I know is a sign of good things to come. 
As teacher leaders, it's important for us to be the marigolds that support beginning teachers as they navigate the challenges of the first few years--the hardest most teachers face in their careers. If we aren't careful, the grumblers -- the walnut trees-- will prevail and an eager new teacher will find himself stuck in the valley of disillusionment. 

Our profession, and more importantly, our students deserve better than that. 

Gandhi Didn't Say That (or My Life's Philosophy is Based on Lies)


"Be the change you wish to see in the world."
-Mahatma Gandhi

These words speak to me deeply on both a personal and professional level. I like improving, fixing, refining, perfecting. Whining and complaining are pointless to me unless it part of your path to exploring solutions. If you want things to be different, be different yourself. It's this notion that I have built my teaching career around.

Aaaand, it turns out to be a bunch of hooey. Or at least, Gandhi never actually said it. So what's a girl to do when she finds out her mantra is not the wisdom of a great thinker, but likely the invention of some bumper sticker printer?  If you're me, you go ahead and try to be the change you wish to see in the world anyway.

Here's the thing, whether the quote is attributed to Gandhi or Garfield, the sentiment rings true. I'm not going to change the world by complaining, expecting others to change, or just sitting on my duff. So this past week, I did two things to push myself into being the kind of teacher I want to see in my schools, the kind I want my daughter to have--the kind that takes risks.

First, I joined an unconference called EdCamp QC. It's professional development flipped on its ear. Instead of a panel-selected conference agenda, the participants walked in, suggested topics, and the agenda was set on the spot in about 30 minutes. BAM! It's pretty powerful to be in a room full of teachers (on a SATURDAY!!) who chose to be there and get to choose what to talk about. Game changer. While it wasn't the most amazing, magical, unicorns-and-monster trucks PD I've ever done, it has helped me think differently. And shifting my thinking IS amazing stuff.

After my EdCampQC experience, I felt gutsy enough to jump into the deep end of Twitter. I had a partner in my madness, so Megan and I co-hosted a Twitter Chat (#SCsnowchat) on our most recent school snow day. Wow--what a wonderful way to connect with teachers--both friends and strangers. It's something I will definitely be adding to my PD repertoire.

So maybe Gandhi didn't tell me to do it, but I am grateful for that piece of bumper sticker wisdom for pushing me to try new things, being willing to fail, and growing as an educator. Because that's the change I wish to see in the world.

How about you?  What message is sticky noted to your mirror or monitor?  Share your bumper sticker widsom with me by clicking the Tweet button below!

Tweet: Hey Amber, read this: INSERT TITLE HERE #40_by_40

What Schools Can Learn from Undercover Boss


As someone who works outside of a school building, I have become increasingly aware of the perception some have of those who make decisions about teaching and learning without actually being in a classroom. "They just don't get what I do" is common lament from teachers regarding elected officials, local leadership, or even "ivory tower" researchers. The disconnect between management and employee makes shows like Undercover Boss so successful because it asks people to look at situations from a new perspectives.

Teach to Lead is an online community, the brainchild of NBPTS and the US Department of Education where teachers suggest solutions to problems such as the knowledge gap between policy-makers and the classroom. In reading some of the proposed leadership ideas on the site, one in particular caught my attention. In her proposal, Coach_Christina recommends that principals and district office administrators spend time teaching as part of their professional responsibilities. The intended purpose is to connect administration back to the students and to help them understand the perspective of the classroom teacher. You can read the full proposal and the related comments here.

As a district office administrator, you'd think the reason this idea caught my eye has to do with sending someone like me back into a classroom. Frankly, being in a classroom is one of the things I miss most in my current job, so I would welcome the opportunity for some classroom time! It might surprise you that I even agree that there can be a disconnect between policy and classroom practice. Currently less than 5% of my state's General Assembly classify themselves as educators, which suggests that state laws for education may lack a teacher's perspective. A stint in a classroom would certainly be an interesting solution.

But...whether a little not-so Undercover Boss will change policy is not what intrigued me about the proposal in the first place. What stood out for me with giant flashing lights was the idea of what to do with the classroom teacher while the administrator is in charge of the instruction. In Coach_Christina's plan it seemed a bit of an afterthought, like send the teacher to do some coaching or do the principal's job or something. For me the idea of what to do with the classroom teacher is the place to start!

What would happen if we did try a little switcharoo?

Imagine a mentor teacher and a beginning teacher that have been paired together. Part of a mentor's responsibility is to provide support for that beginning teacher through planning, conducting observations and providing feedback. Imagine that mentor teacher being paired with an administrator who will take over the teaching responsibilities of the mentor teacher's class--most likely one subject or one period--for a while. While the original proposal was 3-6 months, I think a lot could be accomplished in much less time.

What is important to note is that the mentor teacher is handing over the reigns of his or her class to the administrator, not writing sub plans to be followed. This is the key to the success of this plan. Every teacher who has ever come to school with the plague rather than write a sub plan can attest--writing sub plans is the WORST! The mentor teacher can be fully committed to his or her time with the beginning teacher knowing that the class is being taught by a qualified instructional leader.

Now you have a mentor teacher with a chunk of unencumbered time to spend with the beginning teacher in job-embedded professional development. This is an ideal mentoring relationship, which has been shown to be highly effective in improving a beginning teacher's practice and retention to the profession. I don't think I need to go into all the amazing things that can happen with a mentor and a beginning teacher together for this amount of time--co-teaching, modeling, immediate direct feedback, reflection, and the list goes on. If there is one thing I hear from beginning teachers and mentors, it's that they wish they had more time together.

So will Undercover Boss be the next big wave in schools?  Probably not. But it could be.

This conversation all started with a clever idea for how to get decision-makers connected to classrooms, but there is much more to this than one idea.
The important part is the willingness to ask those "what if..." questions.  There are some interesting ideas floating around Teach to Lead, but I would venture to say that there are probably a good many ideas floating around in your head or at your school that are worthy of some "what if..." conversations.

Have you ever had someone hear you out and appreciate your perspective about how to solve a problem? In many ways, having these "what if" conversations is one way to to connect with each other, if we really listen to each other. Susan Scott writes in her book Fierce Conversations:

"If we wish to accomplish great things in our organizations and in our lives, then we must come to terms with a basic human need: We must recognize that humans share a universal longing to be known, and being known, be loved."

Scott goes on to talk about how paying attention, really and truly focusing on the person in the moment, is one way for a person to feel known. Below is an excerpt from Fierce Conversations. Start with Fred Timberlake at the bottom of page 92. Think about how that conversation might look in a school building between teachers, especially a mentor and beginning teacher.




I can't stop thinking about this sentence. "When someone really asks, we really answer." What a powerful statement about building relationships, empowering teachers, and developing trust.

Have you had a Fred Timberlake in your life?  Or do you think you might be that person to another teacher?  Tell me about it in the comments below.